A Productive Therapy Session

Pay attention to any pain or discomfort you are feeling within your body and any areas in which you might be carrying stress or tension.Listen to your body as you go through the above healing exercises and notice the appearance or disappearance of any pain or discomfort.This is when it becomes important to enlist the help of a licenced therapist.A productive therapy session will help clients identify different parts of themselves that they may not have been aware of.A trained therapist will help you understand that your perceived strengths are often covers for underlying hurt and trauma and understand how these issues relate to your everyday behaviour and tendencies.Therapy can also help us to identify the opportunities for secure attachment that exist all around us.In all likelihood we have a network of caring friends or family no matter how big or small who are eager and willing to offer support when necessary.Remember, our survival depends on staying in close contact with those we love.Even the most independent of humans cannot survive alone.Psychoanalysis aims to release repressed emotions and experiences, in other words, to make us aware of previous unconscious memories.Although there is some variety in technique from therapist to therapist, this generally involves the patient lying on a couch, unable to see the therapist.This then leads the therapist to ask more probing and confronting questions, along with the analysis of dreams and fantasies, with the ultimate intent of uncovering hidden memories from early life.Instead, it helps you make sense of what is going on in your head, and provides techniques for dealing with seemingly irrational fears and emotions.The Hoffman process, created by Bob Hoffman in 1967, is a guided process of group therapy that aims to uncover the root causes of our attachment issues and injuries.Participants also engage in journaling, guided meditation and visualization, with the end goal of cultivating compassion for both themselves, their parents and others in their lives.Hypnosis can be a useful technique for uncovering hidden memories and discovering the root cause of our emotional issues.By entering a hypnotic state, patients are more likely to obtain access to deeply buried memories and uncover the underlying causes, or causes, of their attachment issues.With so many therapists out there, finding the right one for you can seem like a daunting task.In a way, it’s a bit like dating finding someone with whom you resonate, and who you feel truly understands you.While it can be time consuming to find the right therapist, it is well worth putting in the time.Start by narrowing down the list.This can be as simple as filtering out those who are not in your vicinity.By taking this small step, it can make the process immediately feel more manageable.Read through your list and get an instinctive feeling about each therapist.Learn a little about each of the professionals on your list their background, their professional views, their life experiences.Rule out any with whom you don’t feel as though you resonate, or could connect with.Develop a vague idea of the approach you want.Do you want to quickly remove the symptoms of your attachment wounds?With your goal in mind, take some time to research a few of the different approaches to healing attachment wounds.Which of these approaches do you feel is right for you?Ultimately, successful therapy relies on a strong relationship between the patient and therapist.Many therapists offer a free initial consultation phone call, so be sure to take advantage of this.Even if, after this, you feel as though you have found the right person to help you work through your issues, you may like to begin with just one or two sessions, to really ensure you have a strong connection with the person you are working with.After all, this is a relationship that has the power to greatly change your life for the better.Even those of us with the most loving of parents can experience attachment issues to some degree.If you have not done so already, take some time to really analyse your behavioural and thought patterns, particularly in the field of relationships.Can you see yourself in any of these attachment styles and personalities?It is important to remember too, that even those of us with a primarily secure attachment style can exhibits anxious or avoidant tendencies at times.While the manifestations of these attachment styles may not be as profound as for someone with attachment issues, they can still present obstacles on the road to happy relationships.Above all, remember that, no matter how many years you have been carrying around your attachment wounds, they are always able to be healed.It is always possible to make changes, and doing so can allow you to finally find the happiness, love and security you have been seeking for so long.Styles Help or Hurt your Relationships.Are your most essential qualities and behaviors determined by your genetics or learned?This is the most enduring debate of our times.The modern scientific view is that the capacity to behave in a specific way is genetic, but experiences will determine how, when, and whether these capacities are engaged.As attachment is about how distress is managed, the answer would lie in how often distress is experienced, and how it is expressed lies in the genetic factors, but the responses to stress are modified by learning and experiences.Thus, how an infant develops an attachment style is mostly learned.Early relationships with parents and caregivers certainly do shape what you expect from and how you participate in later relationships, and specifically in romantic attachments.You develop a blueprint of how you interact in adult relationships, how you seek comfort or push it away, how you trust or don’t, and how you approach any situation that could be perceived as a conflict.Relationships can be really hard.



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